I am a total recovering “do everything myself” person. I am VERY bad at asking for help. So I have the tendency to stick with what I know, and just keep doing that, not always thinking about how I could maybe make it easier on myself.
A friend of mine introduced me to her nanny when I had asked if she would be willing to watch my kiddos so I could make it to a doctor appointment. THAT was a first. NO ONE had watched my kids other than family and close friends at that point.
It went great. My daughter loved her and I even had her come over a second time.
Then, spring break happened, another appointment and everyone I was asking to watch the kiddos was either out of town or busy. I was becoming anxious.
I reminded myself that I could just do something radically different. So I did.
I signed up for Nextdoor.com, and put out a post asking for babysitter ideas. (Okay, so it’s not a RADICAL idea, but certainly out of the box of my comfort zone).
Tonight I’ll be having a 16-year old girl from up the block (who I didn’t even know we had teens on our street), will be coming over to meet my kids and if it feels right, she’ll be watching my kiddos for my appointment.
It wasn’t easy for me to start this process for some weird limiting belief I have about who is capable of watching my kids. But I feel at ease knowing that I’m expanding my circle of people who CAN help me with them when I need it.
Don’t be afraid of doing something different if that thing could help lead you to a more calm and peaceful place. If you don’t like the situation, do something radically different.